Self esteem issues
Whilst not all, some survivors of childhood sexual abuse have low self-esteem. Some are more able to mask this than others.
Our self-esteem is how we value and perceive ourselves. If you have low self-esteem you may feel:
- like you hate or dislike yourself
- worthless or not good enough
- unable to make decisions or assert yourself
- like no one likes you
- you blame yourself for things that aren't your fault
- guilt for spending time or money on yourself
- unable to recognise your strengths
- undeserving of happiness
- low in confidence.
If you are a survivor of CSA and have low self-esteem then the following website might be able to help you explore some of the contributing aspects and create a more positive image of who you are; and how life can improve. Mind - How to increase your self esteem
If you are considering accessing counselling then this will also have an aim of exploring painful issues linked to the past; and an outcome will be to improve self-esteem.
“I used to hate the child within. I blamed her for the abuse. It took me a long time, with the right help, to appreciate that she was in a position where she had to ‘just survive’ and that I needed to be proud of her. Now, I celebrate her bravery, and wear colourful clothes instead of the black (mourning) clothes I wore for decades. I feel GOOD about myself – about what I have achieved, and will go on to achieve.”