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Self esteem issues

Whilst not all, some survivors of childhood sexual abuse have low self-esteem. Some are more able to mask this than others.

Our self-esteem is how we value and perceive ourselves. If you have low self-esteem you may feel:

  • like you hate or dislike yourself
  • worthless or not good enough
  • unable to make decisions or assert yourself
  • like no one likes you
  • you blame yourself for things that aren't your fault
  • guilt for spending time or money on yourself
  • unable to recognise your strengths
  • undeserving of happiness
  • low in confidence.

If you are a survivor of CSA and have low self-esteem then the following website might be able to help you explore some of the contributing aspects and create a more positive image of who you are; and how life can improve. Mind - How to increase your self esteem

If you are considering accessing counselling then this will also have an aim of exploring painful issues linked to the past; and an outcome will be to improve self-esteem.

“I used to hate the child within. I blamed her for the abuse. It took me a long time, with the right help, to appreciate that she was in a position where she had to ‘just survive’ and that I needed to be proud of her. Now, I celebrate her bravery, and wear colourful clothes instead of the black (mourning) clothes I wore for decades. I feel GOOD about myself – about what I have achieved, and will go on to achieve.”